Habit #4 Stop Hiding Start Communicating
We all have dreams and aspirations.
But there is a problem with a dream. It only makes sense in your head. You are the only one who can see that destination. You are the only one who can see the view from the stage to the cheering crowd. You are the only one who can see the game-winning goal.
The problems with your dream don’t end there.
We hide what we are thinking about because we know others will not understand. Others will tell us to take the safer road towards what they know and understand. Yet, you know you’ll never be fulfilled, challenged and happy there.
We are afraid of both getting hurt and disappointing others. We are afraid to fall when we miss the ball and slip on the grass. We are afraid we will walk out onto the stage and forget every note. After the failure who will be there?
Hate to break it to you. But only you will be there after a failure.
Others might be there. Often they’ll be offering you condolences of good job. Nice try. Maybe next time. Eventually, followed by did you know company XYZ is hiring?
Yeah. I know they are hiring but that is not a box I’ll ever be comfortable in. You are still hungry for another chance despite the pain of failing.
“Dream big. Start small. But most of all start.” ~ Simon Sinek
Start Asking Questions
How do you start towards that dream when you are still not sure if it is for you?
You show up.
You start small.
You begin asking questions.
Stop hiding and start communicating what you are thinking about. Ask friends and family what they think you should do. Ask them about what they know you are good at already. Ask them difficult questions that you might not like the answers for.
Even though it may hurt people you care about. Accept that your current style of communicating might not be their preferred style. If you are better at writing your ideas and questions out. Then write. If you are better at talking it out. Then talk. If…