You cannot control the cards you are dealt with in life.
You can only control how you use them.
Over a year ago, I wrote about how to we can deal with the choices we get everyday. There are three options:
- No. Not for me.
- Maybe. But not today.
- Thank you. And get to work.
I’ve played my share of cards growing up (go-fish, crazy-eights, Phase 10, Uno…). The easy card games. Nothing complicated like poker or bridge.
The last time I think I played cards I was in my early teens with my sisters before our lives and interests started separating from each other.
What does playing cards and life choices have in common? There’s always a risk of losing and winning. And all you have is what is in you deck. You can pass and hope (risk) the next card you receive will solve a few problems for you. Or you can find a bit of courage and work with what you have.
You Don’t Understand. I Have a Bad Hand.
That’s a safe players excuse.
Someone else out there always has a worse hand in life. Those people are some of the strongest and most courageous in life because they are playing the cards they have not sitting around complaining.
A friend of mine recently told me about a friend of hers. This friend’s husband is probably on oxygen for the rest of his life because of COVID-19. And to top it off their young daughter had a seizure that has put her on life-support. Mine and my friend’s lives have issues but nothing as bad as that.
They are not sitting around complaining about how others have it better than them. They are focusing on what they are going to do next.
The same thing we all need to be doing.
Focusing on how to move our lives forward with the hand we have been dealt.
If you don’t know what to focus on then focus on the next hour or the next 24-hours and get something done that you’ll thank yourself for tonight or next week. Don’t get overwhelmed by thinking in years or decades just focus on the now.