You Can’t Keep Everyone Happy
Ice Cream Can’t Do That Either
There is a saying that if you want to keep everyone happy then sell ice cream.
Even that saying is not true. You can keep a lot more people happy by selling ice cream but not all of them.
A tried and tested fact of life is you cannot keep everyone happy.
You can’t. I can’t.
What we can do is learn to keep ourselves happy. To push ourselves so we constantly reset our limits of what is possible in our lives. Even if making changes means that not everyone is going to be happy.
Normalize leaving People in whatever reality they have chosen
“Normalize leaving people in whatever reality they are in” is lesson number 7 of 45 lessons Dan Martell shares in his video: I’m 45. If you’re in your 20s or 30s, watch this. A video I am going to write a about for every lesson. The previous lessons can be found here: 45 Lessons.
Dan Martell is a successful entrepreneur. He is now dedicated to teaching others so they can achieve their dreams just as he has — if they are willing to put in the work. In this video, he shares and briefly explains 45 lessons he found on his way to the success he has today.
Why? Why am I going to go through every single one of the 45 lessons Dan shares? So I can learn and pass on what I have learned to you.
You have to say yes so you can learn what works for you and doesn’t work. You have to say yes so you can challenge yourself.
We All Get to Choose Our Realities Every Day.
We make financial decisions that define what we can (or cannot) do. We make choices about friends who influence what we do. We make choices that define what do with our time.
We can control how we ourselves respond to situations. We can choose words that blame others and start arguments. Or we can choose words that take responsibility and start teamwork to finding a solution.
No matter if you are the one initiating that conversation or someone else is you get to control how you respond. You can’t control the response of others. You can try to influence their reactions by your actions.
If you stay calm and positive maybe they will calm down from an agressive place to where you are. So you can have constructive conversations about what to do. If they don’t calm down. So what. Move on. Leave where they are. When they are ready (if they are ever ready) let them come to you.
Some people in their lives are happy with what they have and were they are. They don’t want to move on to new opportunities. They don’t want to take risks that may or may not work out. They don’t want to leave the reality they are in.
If you do want to move on then go. If you do want to take that risk then take it. If you do see the value in continuing to learn, grow, achieve, and meet new people who will support where you are going, then go. Do it for you. Not everyone is going to be happy for your decision.
Get used to leaving people behind.
You don’t necessarily have to cut people completely out of your life when make a decision they don’t agree with. You just make them not a part of that decision.
Just because your parents don’t like the risk of you dropping out of school to start that business doesn’t mean you have to cut them out of your life. Just don’t give their opinions on your business attention. Focus your attention on your mentors and customers who’s opinions will help to improve your business.
Some people will have to be cut out. You know who they are. They are the people who drain you. Who criticize everything you do. Who make fun of you. Who stab you in the back every chance they get. Get them out.
Some people you leave behind might eventually catch up to where you are. They might genuinely come around to supporting you. While they are supporting themselves in their goals.
If they don’t agree with you. Leave them there. If they are negative leave them there. Don’t give up on your goals to keep everyone happy. Ice cream can’t do that.
Stop Selling Ice Cream
To link back to the beginning of the lesson of Normalize Leaving People in The Realities they Have Chosen, stop selling ice cream. You cannot keep everyone happy and still reach your goals.
Ice cream cannot make everyone happy either. Not everyone likes ice cream. Some people only want the triple churned double chocolate with walnuts and strawberries flavour. Others just want vanilla with nothing extra. Some people want ice cream in a bowl. Others want it on a cone. Others want three different flavours at once. And you don’t have what they want.
Forget it. You cannot make everyone happy.
Focus on you. Reach your goals. Write them down. Frame them. Read them everyday. Take action everyday.
Bring the people who support you along for the journey.
If they do not support, you teach yourself to be okay leaving them behind.
Live your life for you.
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